Intact and circumcised men: A woman's point of view | Restoring Tally
Looking back on incidents which have caused me pain, nearly ALL of those experiences have been with circumcised men who felt the need for rougher sex in order to feel adequate sensation. Additionally, because the glans and inside of the foreskin are mucous membrane (like a woman's vulva or inside the mouth) which produce a degree of lubrication, sex has been more comfortable with these men, compared to circumcised men whose cut penis absorbs moisture like other areas of skin do. The sliding motion of the skin also makes sex more comfortable by reducing friction
Sex was perfectly normal for us in the beginning, but it gradually began to take him longer to orgasm. After the first couple of months, it became more common for him to NOT ejaculate than to do so. (...) It wasn't until I tried discussing it with him and doing some research that I realized he suffered from Delayed Ejaculation (DE), a sexual disorder most prevalent in circumcised men (and, to a lesser degree, men who have been traumatized by sex somehow, which he also was) when there has been no spinal trauma. At first, this eased my anxiety and I could resume sex with him semi-normally, having intercourse until I reached orgasm -- which he occasionally did as well.
As the relationship progressed and thoughts of permanency began to arise, problems cropped up again. Talking to him about counseling or getting other forms of help to treat his predominantly circumcision caused DE fell on deaf, and some times combative, ears. Wanting a lifelong partnership with this man, kids were obviously something I wanted as well. If he wasn't going to get treated, and this disorder was only going to get worse as a result, how would we be able to conceive a child without expensive fertility treatment, which he would also look upon with disdain or even refuse?
With the combination of my decreased desire for intimacy and his need to become rougher to compensate, it became more and more frequent that I would feel pain and have to stop before he could even come close to POTENTIAL ejaculation. In a relationship where we already had conflicts about anything even remotely sexual (the human body, sex, his lack of trust in my faithfulness, even platonic intergender relationships), the issues in our sex life brought everything to a boiling point that resulted in a messy breakup.
"Man muss das Unmögliche versuchen, um das Mögliche zu erreichen" (Hermann Hesse)
"Die schönste Frucht der Gerechtigkeit ist Seelenfrieden" (Epikur)
"Die schönste Frucht der Gerechtigkeit ist Seelenfrieden" (Epikur)