Dear Bintel,

I am pregnant with our first child and recently found out his fetal sex is male. I am deeply conflicted over circumcision. On the one hand, we plan to raise our son Jewish, and I want to honor tradition. On the other hand, I don’t agree with circumcision for medical and moral reasons.

As Reform Jews, there are already so many traditions our family does differently. I don’t know why this decision feels so different. I’ve considered alternatives to a bris like a naming ceremony. This feels right for me. Yet I still feel scared about the implications of this decision in either direction. Can you help?